“What if you don’t like your path?”
“Then it’s not your path.”
Jed McKenna, Dreamstate: A Conspiracy Theory
I remember when I was a kid there was a great emphasis on finishing what you had started. Even if you didn’t like it, you stuck with it because that is what you were ‘supposed’ to do. Quitting part way through was the lazy way out, a defect of character. This went for college course choices, job choices and relationship choices. Once you committed to something, you couldn’t change course. Stiff upper lip and all that!
I couldn’t disagree more today!
How many people are working at jobs they detest? Are going through the motions in a relationship that no longer fulfills? Living in conditions that are sapping them of their life blood? What good does it do you to keep climbing the corporate ladder when you find that the ladder is propped up onto the wrong wall?
Life is too short. It’s too short to be working at a job you detest, living where you aren’t comfortable and being with the wrong person. To everything there is a season. And when the season ends it’s time to move on. And there’s a lid for every pot; if the lid isn’t fitting, then change lids.
When I look at my life before recovery and now, I see a colossal difference. When I came into the meeting rooms I was at my bottom. I was living in the metaphoric dungeon of life and my addiction kept me in chains. The miracle of recovery showed me that the chains were of my own making and they weren’t locked. The trap door from the dungeon was unbolted and there was a ladder out. According to the old philosophy, I made my bed, now I must lie in it. The goal, I discovered isn’t to “make the best of it” it’s to leave the dungeon all together!
Any change can be very stressful. Because of this some prefer to stay in the dungeon because they ‘know’ it. Some fear what might happen if they do leave. What if they fail? What if they don’t like it? So they sell their health and peace of mind for the sense of security of a job or a relationship or an addiction that is robbing them of really living life.
Again I say, life is short and you’ll be dead for a lot more years than you ever lived. No one on their deathbed wishes they could have spent more time at the office. Get out there! Try different things! Take some risks! Change the path you’re on if it’s not your path. You don’t get out of here alive, so make sure that you’ve lived while you were here.
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Good post Tim,
For me this was probably the biggest part and start of my recovery. I was at a meeting in very early sobriity and the light came on when the topic “Courage to Change” from Serenity prayer was the topic. For the first time in my life I realized I was the only one who could change how my life was going, and that I was capable of changing. Get out of the hell I was living in. My hope since I came into recovery is to show my children that no matter how bad things are, how broken we have become, that it is possible to change. I have been so blessed.
Keep up the good work, my friend. I always look forward to your posts.
Gracias Norah. Everyday I learn something new that I can apply to my life. I am not my past.